NOBODY GREATER THAN YOU!

Nobody Greater…

What’s going on when we search all over trying to find the answer? What are we really searching for? Without being too presumptuous, might I suggest that we are in search of something greater than ourselves. When life is not what we envisioned, expected, or hoped for, we steer toward the belief that something or someone greater than us has control of all things pertaining to our lives. We somehow, convince ourselves that we have missed it somewhere and that there is an ultimate being who will miraculously fix everything! Surely, there has to be something or someone greater than the force or forces ruling our lives when things aren’t going as planned.

Whether it be religion, profession, love or appreciation, there is nothing outside of us that is greater than what lives, moves and breathes inside of us. The truth is, when it comes to you, there is no greater authority than you! Am I dismissing religion, beliefs, or preferences? Absolutely not! If these are the motivators that drive you and your decisions concerning life, they must be ingrained in who you are on the inside, not an outward appendage of your persona. These things MUST be the heart and core of who you are.

We look externally for a cure to what ails us. The insecurity of the future and our inability to search within causes us to cling to external motivators. We hold on to dying loved ones, jobs, relationships, and other things that no longer serve us, fulfill us or function as a bridge to our future.  Finding our space of wholeness, wellness, financial freedom, love and joy calls for us continuously search within instead of without. You’ll find everything you need and bring peace to your soul when you learn to shut out the noise of life, quiet yourself and implement that internal search. You’ll soon find the answer to all your questions by trusting your inner you.  You’ll soon discover, there is truly NOBODY GREATER THAN YOU!

 

Dr. Orley Anderson,

CPC, ELI-MP

AUTHOR

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We Are All Terminal!

A few years ago, I was in a slump about a terminal diagnosis.  I was told that there was no cure for the disease that I had and that my days were numbered.  I only shared this information with one or two people.  I was afraid, overwhelmed and at a loss for words.  After several months of treatment that didn’t help my symptoms, boat loads of testing and retesting, it was said that my first diagnosis must have been a false positive.  Maybe it was.  Maybe it wasn’t.  I have no idea.  Who knows? I may have been miraculously cured.  Either way, at the time of the retesting til this very day, I do not have this illness.  Yet, I am still terminal!  What do I mean by this?  Well, I’m glad you asked!

I don’t have that illness but I’m still terminal!

Terminal is defined as: Something occurring at or causing the end of life.  Something utterly beyond hope, rescue or saving. Occurring at or forming the end of a series, succession, or the like; concluding.  

Life is defined as:  The condition that distinguishes organisms from inorganic objects and dead organisms, being manifested by growth through metabolism, reproduction and the power of adaptation to environment through changes originating internally.

We can all agree that death, the great equalizer, is something that causes the end of life.  One things is for sure, if we continue to live, one day we’ll surely die.  This makes us all terminal!  Our lives can vanish in a blink of an eye.  Our life is the small dash between birth and death that is noted on our obituary.  What you do with the dash between the year you were born and the year you die, is up to you. A goal within my dash is to allow the elderly to continue to reproduce, adapt to their changing environment, live fervently, awaken eagerly and enthusiastically share great moments until death finally brings their lives to a conclusion.

This is what I want to do with my dash…

I want to start A Great Life 2Day Home Care Service.  I must admit, trying to start my own Elder Home Care business has been a struggle financially, emotionally, physically and every other way possible.  The emotional struggle has come from listening to elderly conversations in assisted living facilities, private care and nursing homes as they talk about death.  They speak of death as if it is a great friend or the savior of the world.  I was sharing with several “young” ladies as they talked about the recent passing of a friend.   Speaking of the friend who had passed away, the statement, “Good for her!” was said more times than I was comfortable with.

A lot of our elderly have lost their zeal for life which has rendered them hopeless and helpless.  They are literally wanting and waiting to die.  They even seem a bit sad when it doesn’t happen!  Have you ever woke up in the morning and said, “Awww damn, I woke up again?”  Maybe you haven’t but many of our elderly have.  They have been kindly tucked away in nursing facilities or they live at home alone.  Most of their friends have passed on and loved ones are too busy living their own lives to spend the time needed to help them feel useful again.  Just because they are of a certain age does not mean they have nothing left to offer.  In fact, just the opposite is true.

They still have plenty to offer!

There are times when I sit with my clients and just listen as they rehash their younger days.  Even those who are diagnosed with dementia or some type of short term memory loss, remember their “Glory Days!”  They tell stories about life experiences that we have only read about in our history books.  I have one client who talks about how wonderful she though President Franklin D. Roosevelt was and where she was when Kennedy was assassinated.  If you take a moment to listen, you just might learn something!  The elderly have so much to offer.  Our younger generations could greatly benefit from these personal experiences. There could be a mutual exchange that would benefit everyone involved.  Yet, days go by when some of the elderly have no interaction with other people at all.  A Great Life 2Day Home Care Services would change this for as many as possible.  To help us do this you can Click here to donate.

This is one reason I want to open my own Elder Home Care Business.  Not only are the elderly terminal, the truth is, I am terminal and so are you.  Life, itself is a terminal illness.  From the moment we are born, we know that death is imminent.  We just don’t know when, where or how.  Tomorrow is not promised to anyone.  This is why I am on a mission to do this NOW!  Tomorrow isn’t promised to me either!  My Elder Home Care service is still alive and well, moving, breathing and kicking inside of me.  My goal over the last 15 years has been to die empty. I believe I will give birth to this endeavor before long.  This is why I am reaching out to you for your support.  Tomorrow is not promised to you either.  So, TODAY, go to www.fundrazr.com/WeNeedYourHelp and donate today.

My goal is to help as many elderly as I can to:

  1.  Live safe and happy throughout their end of life days
  2. Unleash their potential to motivate and continue to share life with others
  3. Provide relief  and a balanced lifestyle for their family and support system
  4. Provide the tools needed to assist with the aging transition
  5. Provide a space where the elderly can feel useful and full of life!                          You are one of the missing pieces to my puzzle.  I need your financial assistance to do this thing! Don’t waste another moment!  Remember, we are all terminal.  Do what you can today!  Help me become our elder’s “Living angel who brings them a new lease on life!”  Your generosity will not go unrewarded.  I’d like to take a moment now and thank you for your support! Click here to support!  A Great Life 2Day Home Care Service needs you!  Donate today!

Dr. Orley Anderson,CPC, ELI-MP, AUTHOR

 

Old But Not Outdated!

During the last couple of years life for me has changed drastically.  Some of the changes were good, others, not so much.  After suffering from a debilitating fall and unable to work as usual, I found myself, ironically, working in the area of home care for the aging.  This position required me to care for others who could no longer care for themselves.

After months of caring for clients of diverse backgrounds, ailments, ethnicities, financial status among other things, I soon discovered my true sense of self-worth, identity and authenticity.  I found that I really enjoyed being a part of “making someone’s day!”  Helping the elderly with daily living activities so they can stay safely and comfortably in their own homes as long as possible had become a driving force in my life. 

I am in the process of starting my own homecare company.  I am doing this for several reasons.  The most important one being my desire to make a clients latter days as good as or better than their past.  I love seeing them happy, rejuvenated, revitalized and having a renewed sense of self.  The elderly have so much to offer in the way of wisdom and knowledge.  My father used to say that he had forgotten more than I would ever know! They see the world in a different light as they have lived long enough to know nothing last forever and that things aren’t nearly as bad as they seem! 

Over the next few weeks I will be sharing some of my experiences with my readers.  In the meantime, if you are interested in helping me help the elderly stay in their own homes, please make a donation to this endeavor. Just click here!

What’s In A Name?

Me from MicahHave you ever wondered what message your name carries?

Years ago there was a company that manufactured televisions, named Zenith.  Their tagline was, “the quality goes in before the name goes on.”  Their message was quite clear, if the television didn’t meet their standard of quality, it didn’t get to “wear the name” Zenith.  The product had to live up to its’ name!

In a day and time where first impressions are made mostly through some means of technology and medium, what you are named can mean the difference between getting a job or not.  Employers looking at a name on an electronic application or resume, might overlook someone because of their name.  People looking for a company to do business with, sometimes, choose a company because of how the name resonates with them.

What's in a name3I thought about this because on yesterday, I changed my name. There’s an interesting story around it that I’ll share with you now.  Back in the early 70’s when I started school, parents did not have to bring any documentation to prove your identity.  My mom had passed when I was 19 months old and my dad was a Pastor of a huge congregation and was always busy.  That left the care of my siblings and I to my grandmother.  When it came time for me to start school, my granny took me and enrolled me in school.  And that’s where the story began!

Upon enrolling me in school, apparently, my granny spelled my name the best she knew how.  She spelled it OLLIE.  It wasn’t until years later that I found out the truth.  Years passed by and as far as anyone knew, including me, my name was Ollie.  It wasn’t until after I gave birth to my first child and needed a copy of my birth certificate that I found out the truth!

I went downtown to the County Clerks Office and requested a copy.  Upon receiving the document, I noticed something quite strange, much to my surprise, my name wasn’t spelled like I spelled it.  Turning around, my first inclination was to go back to the desk and tell them they had made a mistake.  However, upon further review, I noticed that all the other information, such as my parents name, my date of birth, the hospital I was born in, were all correct.

As I turned to walk away from the counter again, I had what I considered a “flashback!”  I remembered a conversation I had with my father when I was about 9 or 10, as he completed a field trip slip that was sent home by my teacher.  When I gave him the form to complete, there was a line there to enter my name.  My dad looked at me and said,”How do you spell your What's in a name2name, O-R-what?”  With a puzzled look on my face, I looked at him and said,”There’s no R in my name. It’s OLLIE.”  At that very moment I realized that the name on my birth certificate was indeed, correct and so was my dad.  This strange name was the name my mother had given me at birth.  I giggled to myself and walked away from the counter.

I had lived all my life being teased because my name was Ollie only to find out my real name was Orley.  I laughed because I didn’t like Ollie or all the horrible things the other children said when they teased me about it.  Oddly enough, I felt like my finding out this way was a blessing.  I could only imagine the amount of teasing that would have come along with Orley!  It was like the lesser of two evils!

I thought long and hard changing my name on my birth certificate.  After all, every other piece of identification, including my social security card said Ollie. Heck, so did every account I held, even my children’s birth certificates!  It would be a little costly, but it beat the alternative of changing everything else in my life to match my birth certificate.

Nevertheless, upon giving it much thought, I decided to keep the name mWhat's in a namey mother gave me.  It must have meant something to her.  So, I went to the SSA and changed my name on yesterday so that it matched my birth certificate.  I will gradually change my other documents to read Orley.  If my mother gave it to me, there must have been a reason.

This morning I looked up my “new name.”  I underlined the parts that agree with my character. Here is what it said:

Orley-There are 5 letters in your name. Those 5 letters total to 30. There are 2 vowels and 3 consonants in your name. Your number is: 3.  The characteristics of #3 are: Expression, verbalization, socialization, the arts, the joy of living.  The expression or destiny for #3:An Expression of 3 produces a quest for destiny with words along a variety of lines that may include writing, speaking, singing, acting or teaching; our entertainers, writers, litigators, teachers, salesmen, and composers. You also have the destiny to sell yourself or sell just about any product that comes along. You are imaginative in your presentation, and you may have creative talents in the arts, although these are more likely to be latent. You are an optimistic person that seems ever enthusiastic about life and living. You are friendly, loving and social, and people like you because you are charming and such a good conversationalist. Your ability to communicate may often inspire others. It is your role in life to inspire and motivate; to raise the spirits of those around you.

Your Soul Urge number is: 11.  A Soul Urge number of 11 means:
With the 11 Soul Urge, much of your thinking and interests relate to the abstract, the spiritual, and utopian dreams. You are motivated toward idealistic concepts, and the sharing of your ideas and concepts with humanity. This number is not one that is giving in a material or a practical sense, but rather one who desires to help mankind with a more abstract commodity such as religion, spiritualism, occult studies, or even psychic abilities.

If you possess the positive 11 Soul Urge traits, you have a dream of the perfect world (you should read my poem Heaven and Hell, in my book, All is Well); you are highly idealistic and inspirational. Your inner strength and devotion to your beliefs are extremely strong. You have a very good mind that is especially well equipped to handle the higher, more abstract forms of thought.

I chose to keep my birth name because it is who I am.  Besides, to borrow from my friend, William Shakespeare, “That which we call an Orley, by any other name would smell as sweet!”

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3 Easy Steps to A Healthier New You without a New Year’s Resolution!

What Are You Waiting For?

The New Year is just around the corner.   Now is a great time to celebrate what you have accomplished this year and assess what can be done to make next year NY resol 3a better year.  How many New Year’s resolutions dropped off your radar by January 15th?  How many of them never even made it past day one?  How would it feel to never have to make another resolution ever again?

Though, resolutions may seem like a great idea, statistics show that nearly 95% of people fail to keep them each year.  Stop being a part of the statistic!  The good news is, you don’t have to wait until the New Year and you don’t need a resolution.  What you need NY resol 1is a plan.  You’ve got to have a plan!  It was Benjamin Franklin who wisely reminded us, “If you fail to plan, you are planning to fail!”  The key is setting practical, realistic and obtainable goals that will lead you toward the “New You” you’re desiring to become.  Here are three easy steps to help you see a “Healthier New You!”

  • Step One – Decide Upon Your Goal

Decide upon your ultimate goal and realistically how long you want to take to obtain it.  Be totally honest with yourself about how much you really desire to meet this goal. You will need to take into account several things that you’ll need to accomplish your goal, such as:

  • The amount of time you are able to set aside and when (before/after work, weekdays/weekends),
  • The amount of effort it will take (physically, mentally, financially, emotionally),
  • Who will be a part of your support team (friends, family, coach, trainer), as well as
  • The reason you want to accomplish this goal (well-being, quality of life, look/feel better).

 

  • Step Two – Put Your Plan In Place

If your goal has made it through Step One, now you can make a plan of action and put it into place.  Evaluate what you will need to do on a monthly, weekly and daily basis to meet your goal within your allotted time frame.  Outline your complete plan but fully complete a plan for Month 1.  Yes, one month. If there are tools already created that can assist you, by all means, use them! You don’t have to reinvent the wheel!

For instance – If your goal is to lose 50 pounds in ten months, outline your plan for the ten month period.  Then, for short-term goals, break your ten month plan down a month at a time.  Your short-term goal might be to lose 5 pounds a month.  This equates to about 1.25 pounds a week.  Your plan should include daily and weekly tasks that point you toward your five-pound a month goal.  If you have access to preplanned meals, or recipes, use them.  If you follow your plan consistently, you will ultimately, reach your 50 pound goal.

Don’t beat yourcelebrationself up if things didn’t go as intended.  If this is something you really want, the secret is to never give up!  You are right where you were meant to be! Also, remember to reward yourself for your accomplishments.  Don’t down play small steps, nothing is insignificant.   Celebrate the small victories!

  • Step Three – Evaluate and Adjust

Each month, take the time to evaluate how well or how poorly you may have doneevaluation.  Then adjust your plan accordingly for the following month.   If you are struggling in an area of your plan, be sure and make the necessary adjustments.  Evaluate if that portion of your plan can be modified, replaced or totally eliminated.  On the flip side, if part of your plan is working well, you might consider ramping it up a bit next month!  There’s a saying, “It’ll work if your work it!”  Work your plan!   Keep working it and working on it until you accomplish your goal.

Decide your goal.  Put your plan in place.  Evaluate and adjust as needed.  If you want a “Healthier New You” without all the hassle and guilt of unrealized New Year’s resolutions, you’ve got to do things differently!  With these steps, you won’t have the cloud of a failed New Year’s resolution hanging over your head to make you feel guilty.  In fact, you’ll more than likely find yourself smiling quite a bit as your progress becomes more and more evident.  These 3 easy steps will have you celebrating the New Year all year long!

Happy New Year – Healthy New You! HNY 2016

Dr. Ollie Anderson

CPC, ELI-MP, AUTHOR

CHRISTIAN COUNSELOR

Has Chivalry Taken A Holiday?

It appears that chivalry is no longer working.  It seems to be on holiday and in some places, on life support or maybe, even dead!  As we celebrate the Labor Day weekend, I am adamant about putting chivalry back to work!

Labor Day is a holiday that was created as a result of a labor movement in 1885.  By 1894 it was adopted as law and legislated as a national holiday.  The purpose of Labor Day is to celebrate social and economic accomplishments of American workers who contribute to this nation by supporting its economic growth.  The holiday commemorates the advancement of our country’s pride, power and prosperity.

I would have to say, though we have grown leaps and bounds in so many areas, we seemed to have regressed in so many others.   We seem to have gotten so caught up in prospering economically that we have lost some of the simple things that make life meaningful.  Social justice, race relations, financial equality are ideals that have proven to be major setbacks but for me, another of those ideals is chivalry.

Though it may not seem important to many, it is of grave importance to me.  It speaks to how, as a people, we have lost a basic caring for one another.  There is a difference in caring about me and caring for me.  Caring about me is comparable to having empathy, aChivalry minimal amount of thought and feeling might accompany it, but it requires no further action.  However, caring for me necessitates action.  Caring for me requires you not only understand how I feel but your compassion moves you to concern and accountability.

I know you may think this a bit heavy for the topic of chivalry, conversely, I think it may not be heavy enough.  I consider chivalry to be a lost art that is sorely missed.  Chivalry is simply having courage, honor, loyalty, respect and consideration for others.  My dad used to say, “When respect is gone, you don’t have to worry, love had already gotten its coat and hat and left!”

My Godson posted this quote as a Feminist Philosophy Lesson on his Facebook page: “The door-opening and similar services provided are services which really are needed by people who are for one reason or another incapacitated-unwell, burdened with parcels, etc. So the message is that women are incapable”. -Marilyn Frye.  I don’t know about other women but this was an insult to me.  I love and appreciate having my door opened by a gentleman.  It is not a sign that I am weak nor incapable.  It is a symbol that the gentleman thinks I am important enough for him to show his consideration toward me and open my door!

Chivalry2So, men as you celebrate this Labor Day, put chivalry back to work.  Demonstration your courage by caring for a woman.  Show that not only is chivalry not dead, but it’s reentering the work force!

Life & Fitness Kick-Start at PhuketFit™

Do you want to go from bad shape to good shape fast? Are you already in good shape, but want to reach the pinnacle of physical condition? Then get ready for a kick-start with the new Total Fitness Program! PhuketFit™.  This latest program will introduce the current you to the slimmer, leaner, faster, stronger, much more flexible and feeling on top of the world you in what will feel like no time at all.

PhuketFit™ provides you with everything you need to get into the best shape of your life. This is not just a weight loss program. This is a brand new and full body transformation program. Training. Support. Nutrition. Guidance. Rejuvenation. The entire program is personalized specially for you.

That’s what makes PhuketFit™ shine in the sea of one size fits all fitness retreats. The expert trainers, nutritionists and staff members at PhuketFit™ work with you to create a customized wellness battle plan, catered to your specific needs. You will lose the maximum amount of weight, in a safe and healthy way.

Every training session, class, and meal is planned out in advance, based upon a combination of your personal health factors, preferences, and goals. And from the moment you set foot in PhuketFit’s retreat, their professional and caring team is with you every step of the way.

You’ll start with a one-on-one personal program orientation with one of their expert fitness and nutrition specialists. Together you’ll devise a program focusing specifically on what you want to achieve. The programs are designed this way so that each and every guest will experience the maximum benefits they desire.

Remember, this is a full life and fitness overhaul (not a strictly weight loss program). So if you’re in need of a kick-start to either get in shape, or take your fitness to the next level, then this is the program that will be specially designed for you.

An example of one guest’s personal experience in the new Total Fitness Program included a 1-on-1 private session, seven group fitness classes, five group yoga classes, five TRX suspension classes, one morning beach boot camp, 4 Muay Thai kickboxing classes, access to Fitness Studio (7am – 10pm daily), one healthy cooking class, a daily health food plan (three meals, two snacks, one juice), and one Thai or oil Massage.

This guest wanted to improve their overall strength, endurance and flexibility. But PhuketFit™ offers such a wide range of different classes, training sessions, and dietary options, it’s almost impossible for two guests to end up with identical itineraries! Even if a class does not fall into your customized program plan, as their guest you are still entitled to attend any and all of them. But keep in mind that each individual program is structured differently, in order to suit every guest’s specific needs.

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